Frequent bickering among young couples and married people is increasingly visible, often amplified by social pressure and communication breakdowns. Some argue that this pattern of conflict fuels polygamy and rising divorce rates among youngsters and spouses alike. I take a largely negative view of this claim, because persistent conflict reflects deeper relational failures rather than justifying alternative marital arrangements.

Among youngsters, constant bickering commonly arises from emotional immaturity, unrealistic expectations, and digital distractions between partners. For example, when disagreements are handled poorly, the conflict erodes trust between people and makes separation more likely. Indeed, youth who rely on impulsive messaging instead of calm discussion often escalate a minor dispute into lasting resentment. This dynamic contributes to break-ups, yet it demonstrates a need for better conflict management rather than validating multiple partnerships or polygamy.

In marriage, bickering can indeed precede divorce when issues such as finances, roles, or fidelity remain unresolved between spouses. However, linking such conflict to polygamy is problematic. Notably, polygamy does not solve communication failures for married people, and it often multiplies conflict by adding competition and inequality among partners. Moreover, many spouses recover when they adopt counselling and compromise, showing that divorce is not an inevitable outcome for every married couple.

In conclusion, while habitual bickering can increase instability and divorce rates, it does not justify polygamy and should not be treated as an unavoidable trend among youngsters. Therefore, strengthening the communication skills of partners and spouses offers a far more constructive response to conflict than polygamy or divorce.